I choose

*Lesson learned this week*

Everybody won't be happy with the decisions that you make. Some will even be so bold to tell you that, you're wrong & it's going to come back and bite you in the butt. And you'll regret it for the rest of your life. Here's my take on that. If you do something that you think is the best thing for you. I mean, you've prayed on it. You feel peace in your spirit about it. Stick to your guns & stand by the choices that you have made. Yes, sometimes these decisions hurt other people. It's an unfortunate side effect. Regardless of what others may TRY to say to you, it doesn't (in Monique's book) make you a terrible person because you've decided to look out for yourself first (whether that's mentally, physically, spiritually, or emotionally) You have to take care of yourself before you can take care of others.

Will the reactions of others cause you to doubt yourself? Absolutely. It's normal to wonder, "did i do the right thing?" "Maybe I could've handled that differently" "So & so is probably right".....But remember....if you aren't being malicious and you genuinely think that you're doing what's best for you....What else can you really do? You have no control over how people will interpret & react to certain situations. All you can concern yourself with is that, I wasn't being mean spirited, and I thought that I was doing the best thing for ME at the time.

Don't get me wrong, sometimes we do honestly make messed up choices. We may not realize it at the time because we're torn between doing what WE think is right, listening to the counsel of others, & also trying to discern the voice of God. That's a lot going on at a crucial time & error is inevitable. If it turns out that you made a wrong choice then guess what....suck it up. Life goes on. Learn from the situation, do your best not to repeat it, & just go from there. We're all going to make mistakes in life, but I read somewhere, that the only mistake we could actually EVER make, is not learning & applying the lessons and continually making the SAME "mistake" over & over. Everything else should just be looked at as....a learning experience. (I used to hate that when my mom said it to me as a teen but she was right)

ALSO don't be confused...putting yourself first doesn't automatically mean to just be selfish and all about ME ME ME (or YOU YOU YOU). Sometimes compromise is necessary. As is flexibility, compassion. & general selflessness. But if you find that 8.6 times out of 10, you're giving SO much that you have nothing left for YOU....then it's time to make some changes.

I feel like I could have been so much more effective in sharing my point if I could use a specific current life example, but I don't know if I have any WATCHERS out there who may be offended at this present time, so guess that'll have to come down the line after emotions have died down. ;)

Be easy y'all♥