I remember one time writing a blog on myspace, a year after my miscarriage entitled "Time heals all wounds...yeah right". Basically it was about not being able to heal properly. This was the first paragraph:
"So the phrase Time heals all wounds is one that isn't really one of my favorites, because i feel like it's inaccurate. If you cut yourself and had to get stitched up, but everytime it looked like you were healing, you pulled your stitches out....no matter how much time has passed...you won't heal if your wound keeps getting busted open"
Well today I stumbled upon an online Essence article about healing after a breakup or something like that. & who knew that 2yrs ago I was actually thinking the right things. Time alone doesn't heal wounds. So to ppl who say that to someone after a loss, death, break-up, disappointment...cut it out! LOL.
The excerpt is below. Pay close attention to the "equations" at the bottom.
"We have all heard this before, we have all said this before. And we were all wrong! Time does not heal all wounds. Time gives the wound an opportunity to get infected if it isn’t treated properly.
If you sliced your finger, the doctor wouldn’t say, “Just don’t use it for a few weeks.” She would apply medicine to remove the bacteria and, if necessary, stitch it up to ensure it doesn’t get worse. If this is the procedure for a simple cut, wouldn’t emotional wounds (which are much more complex and deeply-rooted) also require intentionally to facilitate adequate healing?
Time alone doesn’t heal. It will, however, provide you with the opportunities you need to “medicate” yourself visa vis reading books, journaling, prayer, counseling, etcetera as you go through the healing process.
Time – A Plan = A Mess
Time + A Plan = Maturity, Perspective, and Growth"
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