lesson learned

I realized that one of the problems in most of my friendships/relationships that ended was because i wasn't able to be 100% honest when it came to things that probably were going to hurt someone's feelings. I always thought, "do what it takes to spare feelings"...go along with the flow...don't disrupt the waters...that type of thing. I thought that's the way that relationships/friendships prospered. But little did i realize that this was definitely the wrong approach. I think ppl respect & appreciate you more when you can be 100% honest regardless of if feelings are going to be hurt as an end result.

And if it's a true friendship or a true love then even though their feelings have gotten hurt, in the end it's better because you showed them how much you cared about them by being able to communicate honestly. And your relationship/friendship will be so much better and STRONGER!

So now that i'm recognizing that this is a major flaw that I have, i'm able to take steps towards changing it & making sure that nothing like this happens again. I hurt someone special. Someone who i promised myself i would do everything in my power to NEVER hurt. And it's made me miserable to know that i hurt him so much. Hopefully we'll be able to move forward from this because like i said...lesson most DEFINITELY learned =/